XXFactored Mar2013: We want gender-neutrality but we also want sex!
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I initiated a social media clean-up last year that continued over several weeks. Pages were unliked, dead blogs were unsubscribed from, uninteresting and spammy twitter accounts were unfollowed, Boards rather than people were looked at to follow on Pinterest. The result is that my timelines move slower and I’m getting a better chance to look at things that are really interesting and relevant. Also, it has considerably reduced my social media fatigue (yes, there is such a thing!) so I’m more inclined to look at newer content.
The Idea-smithy’s Facebook Page looks at pretty much everything that isn’t here so pop culture, fiction, poetry, general slice-of-life moments all fall under that purview. There is so much coming in there that I’m considering making Ideamarked (The Idea-smithy version of XXFactored posts) a weekly rather than monthly feature.
There have been posts coming up that I am not quite sure whether to put on XXFactor or The Idea-smithy. They often have to do with womanhood, sexulaity and relationships but are also about pop culture, fiction or other such things. In a few cases, I’ve posted to both places. But I’m starting to question whether it makes sense to keep these two blogs separate. I’m the same person writing for both and I’m not even anonymous anymore. On the other hand, each one has taken on a certain voice of its own. Also, these are two communities with some overlap but possibly differences, too. So I ask my community here at XX Factor: Should I merge the two or should they stay separate?
And while you’re thinking, here’s the March picks on XX Factor:
- The ‘Harem’ series of pictures depicts Islamic calligraphy tattoos and clothes that blend in with the background to represent Arabic women trapped between their culture and their depictions in Western Art.:
‘Harem: Captivating Images of Islamic Women‘(by Paul Caridad on The Visual News)
- ‘5 Tips for handling Office Romance‘:
I used to believe in ‘not dipping your nib in the office ink’ but with increasing work hours & pressues, I think it’s time to embrace a new social paradigm. And here are some sensible tips. (via YourTango)
- Lying as an essential relationship survival mechanism? I find it personally appalling but then, my all-honesty policy hasn’t worked for my relationships. What do you think?:
‘Deceptive Affection may actually keep relationships going‘ (via PsychCentral)
- ‘Why Gay Men & Straight Women have strong bonds‘:
That’s what I thought too but it’s nice to have it confirmed in expertspeak. Yay to my gay BFFs! (via YourTango)
- High heels signify a class distinction, did you know? But of course, so much of fashion & image-consciousness is about creating a superior ‘us’ over an inferior ‘them’:
‘High Heels and Distinction among Women‘ (via The Society Pages)
- A hilarious infographic on modern day sex myths & reality:
‘4 Things Nobody Admits about Modern Human Sexuality‘ (via Cracked)
- ‘Things I’ve Learned From Writing Under a Gender-Neutral Name‘:
As someone who built a presence on a gender-neutral name, this article called to me immediately. It brings out some very painful truths about gender stereotyping. I especially loved the last paragraph. Think. (via Thought Catalog)
- This article made me want to cry and sigh alternately. Some valid points, some “Are you EFFING kidding me??!” but mostly so much of Whats-the-damn-point. Good read.:
‘5 Ways Modern Men are trained to hate women‘ (via Cracked)
- ‘Remote-Control your Man/Woman‘:
Terribly sexist. Also, quite funny. At least they have one for each of the genders. (via Morph8)
- An ‘strong intelligent’ woman’s tentative steps into make-up and what it means:
‘Brave New World of Make-up‘ (via Neha Vishwanathan)
- ‘She spreads her own wings‘: Fly! (via Coco J Ginger)
- The iconic ‘Can women fake orgasms?’ restaurant scene from When Harry Met Sally. 1.27 is the famous turning point. Enjoy! 🙂 (via Youtube)
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About IdeaSmithIdeaSmith is the digital doppelganger of Ramya Pandyan (intrepid train-traveller and frequent spouter of post-midnight rhymes and rants). As IdeaSmith she battles obscurity and slays boredom with her stories about men, books, digitalia and Mumbai. She performs live and also blogs, tweets, Instagrams, Facebooks, +G’s, Youtubes and Goodreads all as IdeaSmith. Ramya is a blogger, digital storyteller and spoken word performer. She also runs a forum for aspiring writers called Alphabet Sambar. Tweet-bomb her at @ideasmithy.
Posted on April 1, 2013, in Battle of the sexes, Bookmarked, Digital Dil, On a lighter note.., Relationships, Sex & sexuality and tagged Appearance as class distinction, Coco J Ginger, Cracked, Deceptive relationships, Dipping nib in office ink, Fake orgasms, Fantasy gadget, Feminist art, Gay men, Gender-neutral, High heels, Honesty policy, Human sexuality, Islam and women, Lying in relationships, Morph8, Neha Vishwanathan, Office romances, Paul Caridad, PsychCentral, Remote control partner, Sex Infographic, Shackling women, Socimages, Straight women, The Society Pages, The Visual News, Thought Catalog, When Harry met Sally, Why gay men and women are friends, YourTango. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.