Masculine Logic

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Women on Top: How Real Life Has Changed Women’s Sexual Fantasies (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Being in a close relationship brings you insights aplenty. Your brain certainly works overtime and some of those times, you stumble onto enlightening bits of wisdom (even if they are *hic* alcohol-soaked).

Here’s something I thought last week – the sex ratio is skewed in favour of men, in most parts of the world. Men are considered more libidinous so their need for sexual contact is greater than women. With more men competing for less women and with their need to associate and copulate being greater, why are we still the less powerful sex?

I know this will lead to a volley of protests on how women control pretty much everything in this world so let me explain.

What do you think of a man who does not get into a committed relationship? A player, a footloose/fancyfree stud, a hero among his gender. What do you think of a woman in the same situation? That she couldn’t find a man because she wasn’t pretty/young/nice yadayada enough.

What do you call a man in his 30s or later who continues to have dalliances with the opposite sex without getting into one exclusive relationship? A merry bachelor, a cool dude, ‘young at heart’. What do you call a woman who is the same? ‘Desperate aunty’, ‘Cougar’ and a host of other uncomplimentary terms.

What is the common response to a man who announces he’s getting married or into any form of committment? “Sorry dude, your wings have been clipped, you’re chained now.” And a woman? “You’re so lucky! Your lifelong dream has come true! You are set for life!”

When a couple breaks up, what does the guy say? “Freedom at last!” And a woman? Don’t lie, the image we all just conjured up was a runny nose, plenty of chocolate, tearful eyes and cheesy romcoms.

So how does this work, huh? If I’m in a minority and in more demand, should I not be holding the reins of power? Shouldn’t I be lording it over the opposite sex, deciding whether or not to dally with them, making sure they know what a HUGE favour I’m doing just by associating with them? The only way I could do that would be to grow a Y chromosome pair.

Someone tell me that masculine logic makes sense.

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Posted on May 25, 2012, in Being Woman, Flying solo, Gender Archetype, Men, men, men, Relationships, Unholy Matrimony and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Suddenly Truth

    The real solution is to stop caring, and to refuse to participate in the pathetic, monotonous dramas that dating and relationships are. Take my life for example. I am strapping young gentleman who is successful, and I choose to engage the services of beautiful prostitutes for sex. For friendship I have a few good, male, friends. A dog or a child would also be viable, entertaining & safe company. And I am having a hell of a good time and I sleep just fine with a clear conscience.

    Why can’t women live a similar lifestyle? Who gives a shit as to what society thinks or as to what people say… How does it at all make a real difference in anything? The answer may just be that it’s women who are the real predators. It’s always the women who go on and on about wanting to “settle down” a.k.a grab a guy by his balls and stifle him. The bank accounts and freedom to screw other women are the first to go in these evil cases of entrapment.

    Since you mentioned social conditioning it’s also true that world-over most women have the mindsets of vampires. Women always want to trade up, while most men just want a hot piece of ass to be honest. Treating men like walking ATMs… If it isn’t the money, it’s always something to do with the freedom and individuality of the man. It’s satanic! This whole idea of coupledom and merging a distinct, thinking man into a “relationship” where he is subdued (“responsible”) is evil and unnatural. The behavior of such women is not dissimilar to parasites looking for a host to infect.

  2. @Suddenly Truth: I’ll address just one thing in your comment since I think that’s the only thing that merits conversation (all other things being things you want to say but not necessarily discuss).

    You asked – “Why can’t women live a similar life? Who gives a shit as to what society thinks or as to what people say… How does it at all make a real difference in anything?”

    Here’s my answer – I run the risk of physical injury, even death by the moral police if I indulge in what they see as ‘loose behaviour’. The friends that you have even as you have your arrangement with prostitutes? I am not assured the same nonchalence/total acceptance from even the people closest to me. Since my late 20s I’ve faced a subtle ostracism from various factions in my social group simply because I’m single. The workplace has punished me for having an unconventional attitude even while supporting & indulging my male counterparts who do the same. Never mind what’ll happen to all of this if I were to shake the bars a little too loudly for everyone’s comfort. Even service providers treat me with disrespect and like I’m public property when they don’t see a man around.

    As a man, you can toe the line and achieve complete social acceptance. Or you can differ and receive limited social indifference. You can be a hero or a nobody depending on what you choose.

    As a woman, I can toe the line and be permitted to have an education, a career and a family. Or I can break rules and receive condemnation, ostracization and lifelong damnation even I choose to come back to toeing the line. I can either buckle and survive or differ and have my life destroyed for me.

    Do you really believe that we’re at par?

  3. Suddenly Truth

    Move. Indians (north-east being an exception) are some nasty, messed people.

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