How To Deal With The Single Married Man

Ideasmith says,

Please join me in welcoming XX Factor‘s first guest-contributor. He’s a friend who often has an interesting male perspective to offer on the posts. Meet The Single Married Man and here’s his first post:

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Why does a relationship fall apart?’

I still don’t know the answer to that question, though I suspect its got to do with expectations.

We don’t talk of expectations or values when we are flush with the glow of infatuation. However expectations are what make/ruin a relationship – and they have to be communicated in advance.

A lot of the expectations can be “value” or “condition” based – things like “I want a husband who keeps a steady job and buys a house for me by the time we are 30” – if you can’t meet that, buddy, you’re doomed.

I have been married for 11 years – and I am going through a divorce now…Have seen my behavior – scrutinized it – so here are the top tips for dealing with a married man going through divorce

1. He will hit on anything in skirts/salwar kameez/jeans – As someone who’s been married the guy will try to see if he’s still “got his game” – so he’ll try out all the old lines on all the single/separated women

2. If you’re a married woman don’t tell him about your bad marriage – Divorcing guys hone into married women going through a bad patch. He’ll think you are “fair game” without the baggage

3. What had attracted her to you is the bone of contention – Remember what she found adorable about you – your forgetfulness – your laid back attitude , she will hate you for it. And other women would like you for it. Don’t fall for it.

4. He’ll be teary eyed and emotional – We saw Sanjeev Kumar in “Pati Patni aur Woh” – learn the lesson

5. If you’re single – and are attracted to grey hair – deep voice , stay away

In time the married guy will go through a divorce and be single again. Until that happens, legally – give him a wide berth.

– The Single Married Man

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About thesinglemarriedman

Blogging about passing through a divorce

Posted on July 28, 2011, in Ex-factor, Featured, Gender Archetype, Guest Contributors, Relationships, Survival Guide, The Single Married Man, Times, they are a-changing and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Hey, a great post, only couldn’t understand the 3 point. I have been in the boat and see the pattern.
    But don’t understand the need for the warning? I feel it’s the women who take advantage of single available men.

    A warning for men is would be more aptl. But then this is XX factor 😦

    • @Manoj: Thank you for leaving the first commentor on the first post by XX Factor’s first guest-blogger (!!). He’s shy & this is encouragement. I’ll leave it to him to answer your question though. 🙂

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