A feminist by any other name…

Delhiwallas hit on you
Mumbai men check you out
Bangalore’s dudes stare in open admiration
Chennai guys ogle

…..and when I smile, the coffee-bar guy gives me a mug full of warm, liquid chocolate to pour as I like into my drink. The men from the office complex adjoining mine turn their heads as I whip past. It all makes me wonder why I make an effort anyway.

I mean, while at it, I have the attention right where I can do what I like with it. Some of them will put up with anything I dish out (and this I know from experience). Why then, should I pretend to have a brain or good sense? I most certainly don’t have at least one of those two, given the romantic choices I make. I may as well settle for being an ogle-worthy ‘girl’.

It’s a stark realisation that I really care very little of what men think of me anymore. I didn’t care two hoots what the last few people I dated thought of my job, my writing or my friends. Since these are practically all that matters to me, it follows that any opinion that doesn’t matter, doesn’t merit the time and energy required to garner it. Let alone the heartache of being misjudged.

Why bother anymore over being honest and fair to a species that doesn’t want it anyway?

At the risk of sounding extremely cynical here’s my quotable quote for the week (which I actually said last week):

Brain, heart, penis – only two of those things can exist in a human being simultaneously.

Call me a feminist by all means now. Who cares?

Advertisements

About IdeaSmith

IdeaSmith is the digital doppelganger of Ramya Pandyan (intrepid train-traveller and frequent spouter of post-midnight rhymes and rants). As IdeaSmith she battles obscurity and slays boredom with her stories about men, books, digitalia and Mumbai. She performs live and also blogs, tweets, Instagrams, Facebooks, +G’s, Youtubes and Goodreads all as IdeaSmith. Ramya is a blogger, digital storyteller and spoken word performer. She also runs a forum for aspiring writers called Alphabet Sambar. Tweet-bomb her at @ideasmithy.

Posted on May 16, 2007, in Battle of the sexes, Hormone hangover, Vanity Unfair and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 12 Comments.

  1. ‘Heart, penis, no brain’ would be an interesting creature.

    Anyway, why should the symphony-writing, equation-solving part of the brain at all matter when considering relationships? Isn’t it good enough to have the empathy-feeling, mind-reading part of the brain, i.e. the heart.

  2. That is being anti-male, than being a feminist.

    I can bet a million bucks that a few men exist with the three you mentioned, but I can also bet that there is no women who has just a single heart.

    What men do is a 5-minute infidelity – women just are by nature, in their heart. They call it being elusive.

    Every woman has been so – with no exceptions.

    Of course, men are stupid when it comes to thinking about a woman, beyond a doubt.

    By the way, I am not a male chauvinist.

  3. Nice analytical post, but i echo with ‘alazyguy’ its sort of anti-male! Being fair to both the sexes, in general i can say that for a woman, out of Golden Heart, deceptive tendency & Good looks, at the most one can exist! And similarly for a man, out of Useful Brain, looks & tendency-to-fall-for-wrong-girl at the most one can exist! Obviously these can change with respect to circumstances!

  4. Ashish and alazyguy- Do u realise something-its because give such high premiums to looks and if I may say boobs-that they have started taking advantage of it….even if they dont- they r favoured ……..Men dont inherently think of attributing respect, love to a woman unless she “earns ” it

  5. Mishi – have you noticed that most of the women try to show off their “boobs”.

    Why would a women want to wear high heels when your doctor tells you that it will surely bring back ache along?

    Its not because of the importance men give it, but because of the competition from other women.

    Nobody earns respect or love just like that. For women, before they earn it, they are treated as sex objects. For men, they get used for their money.

    Basically, I do not understand the point you are trying to prove.

    When women can use their boobs to lure men in the short run, so why should men not think with their penis?

  6. @ AnonEcon: Without doubt. But some of us are compulsive intellectual masturbators.

    @ Ashish: The man-hating rather than feminist is true. I’m glad SOMEBODY understands that!!! As for your hypothesis on women, you do know what I have to say to that, don’t you? 🙂

    @ Alazyguy, Mishi: Just for the record, I detest the word ‘boobs’. I prefer the much more accurate ‘bait’. 😉

  7. @alazyguy: I call it silicon usually. I was following the crowd.

  8. Another quote:
    Brain, vagina – these two things can never exist in a human being simultaneously.
    🙂

  9. @ alazyguy: Heard of ‘penis envy’? There’s this new thing called ‘breast envy’. Meow.

    @ Null: Ah, can we assume imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, then?

  10. Men too have started using silicon. So I guess we too have caught up. No more envy I guess. 😀

  11. @ideasmith: i surely know what u have to say 😀

    @alazyguy: Dude, relatively speaking, in the race for luring opposite sexes, trust me though we have one weapon, ladies do possess n number of WMD!

  1. Pingback: Till death do us part « XX Factor

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: