On the sacred knot

So what really happens after? After romance and pursuit and seduction and proposal and marriage, what next? How does ‘happily ever after’ look?

I seem to have gotten preachy recently. And I have zero experience in such matters after all. Hence for a change, I will put aside my wild theories and replay other people’s experiences (with a few nasty comments on the side…what the hell, I am a story-teller!)

Two of my friends are getting married (to each other!). I call them the Barbie n’ Ken couple because they are just so flawless plastic-picture perfect. Of course I’m being catty….they’re a great couple…..oh forget it, let me just get on with the story! I wonder how they’re going to sustain this marriage, especially the ‘quality time’ and ‘bonding’ and all those things self-help books propound. Ken doll is on board a ship for a large part of the year while Barbie works for a BPO and we all know these beings work on a different time-cycle than us lesser mortals….I wonder when they’ll have the time to get hitched. Anytime now I expect to receive a wedding card that reads …

You are cordially invited to the wedding of Sailor-Ken and BPO-Barbie.

Be there on time or be a missed-it-when-I-blinked guest!

Then again, I think of another couple I knew, both call center employees on different time schedules. Apparently they used to wave to each other from buses. Naice, romance flourishes across time and distances.

One of my classmates married his long-time girlfriend from college. She works in Pune while he graces the island city. According to him, he feels ‘even less married’ than earlier since they meet on the weekend (just like teenage sweethearts….how sweet, the romance will live on….*violin music*)

Dinner with an old buddy last month proved to be a delightful experience (as it always is)! She was full of stories about married life. She said “I call him BICYCLE”. “Why?” I inquired incredulously. I never saw anyone who looked less like a handlebar strapped to a frame on wheels. “Because” she said “I ride him and he’s got tyres” Whew….so marriage hasn’t rid her of her sense of humour, what a relief!

Here’s what an older-and-much-married-and-hence-wiser friend has to say about the sacred knot. “Lay down the rules on the first night itself. You’ll never be able to change him later. Everything thereafter will be compared to the first few weeks. That said, sometimes its just easier to get it over with than having to listen to how this relationship isn’t working” This, from the female half of one of the most sorted-out couples I know.

From soon-to-be-hitched to newly-wed to ‘celebrating-a-decade-together-and-still-alive’….I’ll refrain from any more jibes. The only thing that keeps running through my head these days is

Marriage is finding that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

Since most people annoy me, but not that much, I think I’ll settle for a boring and peaceful existence *Meow*

About IdeaSmith

IdeaSmith is the digital doppelganger of Ramya Pandyan (intrepid train-traveller and frequent spouter of post-midnight rhymes and rants). As IdeaSmith she battles obscurity and slays boredom with her stories about men, books, digitalia and Mumbai. She performs live and also blogs, tweets, Instagrams, Facebooks, +G’s, Youtubes and Goodreads all as IdeaSmith. Ramya is a blogger, digital storyteller and spoken word performer. She also runs a forum for aspiring writers called Alphabet Sambar. Tweet-bomb her at @ideasmithy.

Posted on September 21, 2005, in On a lighter note.., Times, they are a-changing and tagged . Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

  1. idea: what do you forsee for yourself? “tying the sacred not”…

    or is it

    “tying the scared knot” for your ‘to be’…

    whatever it is… keep blogging after tying the (k)not 🙂

  2. Hey Idea, Looks like you are pretty insightful (and a wee bit preachy) when it comes to people and relatioships.

    So, why is that people get married after all this? Doesnt really make sense!

    P.S. Inspired by you, I’m thinking of starting a blog myself!

  3. Yeah… Smithy blogging after tying the knot. That’ll be awesome stuff!!

  4. apoorva : yup, and when *Mr.* smithy wud read those posts, he’ll tie a knot yet again….. this time, of a noose ’round his neck ;D

    and smithy dearie….. much of marriage case studies these days…huh? Lagta hai gharwaale fir se peechhe pad gaye :))

  5. You read between the lines Sen…*sighh*…kya bolen, the trials of being potential bride material!

    Apoorva, Iyer…yep, I think I’ll continue blogging after I’ve jumped into lesser abysses than marriage..

  6. Bumped into your blog and got a whiff of cynicism…empathise. …have been there and out…and in…Still single but sans cynicism. Hoping for you!was nice to drop by…

  7. I think, your friend said, “I ride him and he got tired.” Hmmm. And good luck with fending yourself at home!

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