Always our wards

My last most depressing realisation was that men are the weaker sex.

Men are more vulnerable….oh, how many aching male hearts I have comforted after their girlfriends left them or friends let them down! Certainly I’ve soothed some broken female hearts too but from what I see, the average woman will shed copious tears, sniff in agreement at her girlfriends bitching about men and sooner of later, wash her face and get on with life. The average man on the other hand, will sport the stiff upper lip (that reminds me curiously, of stubborn, pouting little boys), flirt with every new woman and then bore her to tears with stories about his ex- (So he thinks he’s bitching about her? Baah….if you’re even thinking about the person, you’re not over them….that is an adage every woman knows but no man seems to fathom!)

Men are more sappy….forget the Mills n’ Boons, I have heard a toughie sing Air Supply down the phone line to the reluctant object of his affections, the stud grin like loony just because his girlfriend breezed into the room while the lady in question was actually looking for her best friend. Like I said, don’t even consider the Mills n’ Boons….ever heard of the iron fist in a velvet glove? That’s the average woman….looking for ammunition in these paperbacks to trap the hapless male.

Men need more….attention, support, love, admiration, sex. The last one absolutely stumps me. It is a scientific fact that both sexes feels hormonal urges, passion, lust….call it what you may. I have yet to hear of a woman making a fool of herself over sex, however. Yes, more and more I believe, that a lot of women use sex as means to power. Men on the other hand, silly short-sighted things, just beg to be taken advantage of. It seems to be a lot about validation….could it be that the traditional upbringing awards less ‘pats on the head’ to females than men…as a result of which, we grow up needing less of it than our male counterparts?

Men are more easily frightened…for heavens’ sake, EVERYTHING scares them! Comittment, love, admiration, power, marriage, parenthood, parting, shifting, change……every damn thing! What is this whole thing about performance anxiety? I truly have no sympathy…..most women face similiar or bigger challenges and it doesn’t make us all quake in our shoes….or even if it does, we don’t lean heavily on the opposite sex to maintain an illusion of security for us! I am thoroughly annoyed by men who faint or do something equally silly when their women are in labour…..who’s the one being stretched apart to let that little one come out? As usual, its left to the woman to be strong and sensible even then. I’ve decided to measure up men on how good they’ll be at being fathers…and that includes the ability to be strong in the face of pain. I’m sure I’ll have enough to worry about a foot-long baby about to make his entry, without having to hold the hand of a six-foot baby as well!

Strangely enough, voicing these opinions seems to have some rather unexpected reactions but that’s for another post. For the time being I’m completely miffed with the idea of having to play nursemaid to half of the world’s population. Oh, don’t they EVER grow up?????

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About IdeaSmith

IdeaSmith is the digital doppelganger of Ramya Pandyan (intrepid train-traveller and frequent spouter of post-midnight rhymes and rants). As IdeaSmith she battles obscurity and slays boredom with her stories about men, books, digitalia and Mumbai. She performs live and also blogs, tweets, Instagrams, Facebooks, +G’s, Youtubes and Goodreads all as IdeaSmith. Ramya is a blogger, digital storyteller and spoken word performer. She also runs a forum for aspiring writers called Alphabet Sambar. Tweet-bomb her at @ideasmithy.

Posted on July 3, 2005, in Battle of the sexes, On a lighter note... Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. “It seems to be a lot about validation….could it be that the traditional upbringing awards less ‘pats on the head’ to females than men…as a result of which, we grow up needing less of it than our male counterparts?”

    No, I don’t think it’s that at all.

    Think about a little boy’s relationship with his mother. How does he transition from this feminine view to the realm of the modern male? Unless handled delicately and lovingly by a father, this switch is just too traumatic.

    The “toughness” exhibited by most males is usually a byproduct of extreme vulnerability.

    A loving caring father is what I (and vast numbers of other males) never had. Unless one is lucky in the way of relationships, it takes a very long time to get a grip on that vulnerability you’re talking about.

    That’s my two cents.

    Ka-ching!

    Oh, and I really like your blog by the way. :-ß

  2. I totally agree! I particularly liked the part where you go – What is this whole thing about performance anxiety? I truly have no sympathy…..most women face similiar or bigger challenges and it doesn’t make us all quake in our shoes….or even if it does, we don’t lean heavily on the opposite sex to maintain an illusion of security for us! Well said!

    Read your comments often on Sagnik’s but it’s good to have you drop by on my blog. Hope to see you around more. Cheers!

  3. The biological reason behind this is quite simple- the woman’s monthly cycle makes her horny 3 days out of 30, for men its 30 of 30. poor fellows- need to have that urge or itch taken care of. As for the rest, everything else is a fall out from there! as for being their nursemaid- that’s ur choice not theirs.

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