The new equation

I wonder what it is going to be like to redefine the world as humankind has known it all these centuries. That is what my life is going to be about.

That is what thousands of women across the world, born to education and comfortable living are being groomed for. Good grades, higher education, certificates and medals and prizes are all stepping stones to the ladder to success. And on the way we’ve been taught self-reliance, independent thinking and rationale. We’ve been trained in modern day Spartan ways and ingrained in us are such platitudes as “To compete with a man, you have to be better than him”, “Men will try to possess you, use their follies against them”, Unfortunately for the world and for us, we’ve also learnt cruelty, bitchiness, ruthlessness and cold success-at-any-cost-ambition.

I know women are going to take over the world…it will happen in my generation. The path has been laid by generations of women before us….the first women who demanded and got a vote, the first ones to study and send their daughters to school, the first ones who went out and worked along with their men….these were the women who demanded an equal status in society. My generation heralds a new era…..women who demand not equality, but superiority. Perhaps we are capable of it or maybe we are not. The question is how will our natural beginner’s mistakes alter the world?

For example, this changes the equations in a marriage and furthur on, in parenthood completely. Since biologically we are still the ones who will do the actual, physical deliveries, maternity leaves and morning sickness and the like will have to be included within the power equations of the working world. If more and more ambitious women decide to postpone or decline pregnancy altogether, what will that do to the demographics of that layer of society? Moreover with the high stress conditions induced by such a lifestyle, what will be the impact on the children born to this generation of women?

The other important aspect is where do men figure in all of this? If the human race will survive this, then it will be because men will learn to adapt to the new conditions. Perhaps they already are….I can see that men are definitely making much better fathers than their forefathers were. Now it remains to be seen whether they will also make good husbands, partners, colleagues, friends than their historical counterparts.

Perhaps the future of the world is still in the men’s hands. After all, we’re driving this world forward, with a ‘Learners’ board on the window….and the men are the experts sitting in the passanger seats, waiting and watching where we’re driving them to.

About IdeaSmith

IdeaSmith is the digital doppelganger of Ramya Pandyan (intrepid train-traveller and frequent spouter of post-midnight rhymes and rants). As IdeaSmith she battles obscurity and slays boredom with her stories about men, books, digitalia and Mumbai. She performs live and also blogs, tweets, Instagrams, Facebooks, +G’s, Youtubes and Goodreads all as IdeaSmith. Ramya is a blogger, digital storyteller and spoken word performer. She also runs a forum for aspiring writers called Alphabet Sambar. Tweet-bomb her at @ideasmithy.

Posted on March 31, 2005, in Seriously speaking, Times, they are a-changing. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Ever seen the Birds fly south? They fly in a V shape. But they rotate the leader.

    The key is to determine who is best suited for a certain situation and let them lead the way for others to learn.

    Men learnt to be better Dads after putting on the learners board and looking at the Mothers.

    Everyone’s wearing a learners board.

  2. well ideas- there is really not much difference between male and female- each human has to work his/her way to find their inner core or center or essence whateer u wish to call. it goes beyond the outer expression of gender. having been married for over a decade and having borne 2 children and running a company, I can ensure u that priorities in life make up for everything- not gender.

  3. hehe .. as the guinea pigs say : Our experiment in this world is done :)–>

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