Posted by IdeaSmith
Being in a close relationship brings you insights aplenty. Your brain certainly works overtime and some of those times, you stumble onto enlightening bits of wisdom (even if they are *hic* alcohol-soaked).
Here’s something I thought last week – the sex ratio is skewed in favour of men, in most parts of the world. Men are considered more libidinous so their need for sexual contact is greater than women. With more men competing for less women and with their need to associate and copulate being greater, why are we still the less powerful sex?
I know this will lead to a volley of protests on how women control pretty much everything in this world so let me explain.
What do you think of a man who does not get into a committed relationship? A player, a footloose/fancyfree stud, a hero among his gender. What do you think of a woman in the same situation? That she couldn’t find a man because she wasn’t pretty/young/nice yadayada enough.
What do you call a man in his 30s or later who continues to have dalliances with the opposite sex without getting into one exclusive relationship? A merry bachelor, a cool dude, ‘young at heart’. What do you call a woman who is the same? ‘Desperate aunty’, ‘Cougar’ and a host of other uncomplimentary terms.
What is the common response to a man who announces he’s getting married or into any form of committment? “Sorry dude, your wings have been clipped, you’re chained now.” And a woman? “You’re so lucky! Your lifelong dream has come true! You are set for life!”
When a couple breaks up, what does the guy say? “Freedom at last!” And a woman? Don’t lie, the image we all just conjured up was a runny nose, plenty of chocolate, tearful eyes and cheesy romcoms.
So how does this work, huh? If I’m in a minority and in more demand, should I not be holding the reins of power? Shouldn’t I be lording it over the opposite sex, deciding whether or not to dally with them, making sure they know what a HUGE favour I’m doing just by associating with them? The only way I could do that would be to grow a Y chromosome pair.
Someone tell me that masculine logic makes sense.
About IdeaSmithIdeaSmith is the online avatar of Ramya Pandyan. Writer. Pop artist. Compulsive list-maker. Nostalgia addict. Board game enthusiast. Allergy Aunty. We're all in there somewhere.
Posted on May 25, 2012, in Being Woman, Flying solo, Gender Archetype, Men, men, men, Relationships, Unholy Matrimony and tagged Comittmentphobic, Committed relationship, Desperate cougar, Merry bachelor, Sex ratio, Sow wild oats, Weaker sex. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.